Goals Aren’t For Everyone

Whenever I set a big goal for myself, I inevitably feel let down right after I’ve reached it. I know the disappointment is waiting for me just on the other side of the achievement, but I can still never avoid it. Perhaps it’s a personality defect or possibly my reaction is part of a larger life lesson. Maybe the purpose of life is not about reaching a destination, but rather about being present in each moment and soaking it in.

When I look back on my career there’s two distinct windows in time where everything seemed perfect. The first window came very early in my career when I was a seller at EMC. I was part of a high performing team where everyone got along and genuinely enjoyed working together. Every member of our team qualified for the club trip two years in a row which is very rare. We had an absolute blast partying together on the beach and celebrating our joint success. That window only lasted for a couple years before attrition got the best of us. The next window came over a decade later when I joined an early-stage start-up as part of the founding sales team. I was able to build multiple teams across multiple geographies and establish a culture I was proud of. I genuinely enjoyed every person I worked with (for the most part :). We accomplished great things and had fun doing it together. It was five years of (mostly) awesome until the politicians showed up and slammed that window shut. Looking back the commonality between the two windows is that I didn’t realize how good we had it at the time. I was too busy chasing goals.

A CEO I used to work for, who’s the most successful person I’ve ever known, used to say that he doesn’t set goals. He simply tries to be as impactful as possible every single day whatever that means in the moment. The downside is that he’s never satisfied, like he’s climbing a mountain he’ll never peak. But the upside is that there’s no limit to what he can achieve. We’re certainly not wired the same way, but perhaps he’s onto something. Maybe a reframe is all I need to fully enjoy and embrace this third awesome window that just opened at Torq. I’ve decided I’m not going to set a single goal for myself. I don’t care about titles, W2’s, equity grants, or IPO’s. I’m simply going to get up every morning with a positive attitude and a grateful heart, and attempt to be as impactful as possible whatever that means in each moment. And I’m going to take time along the way to soak it all in, because awesome times can be fleeting.